For those who loved and lost.

Don’t you ever stare at them and think one of these three things.

• “Why didn’t we work out? Why couldn’t we make this work?”
• “Why did you not want to take a chance on me? I could have loved you like I’ve never loved at all.”
• “How did I love you once and now I’ve outgrown you?”

Don’t you dread those thoughts? You think, how did we end up like this because not too long ago I was praising you, you were put on a pedestal, you were everything I ever wanted and needed in someone and now you’re not here and where I am supposed to go when you’re all I know. Who am I supposed to turn too when you’re all I have ever known. Then you try to think of methods to appease them and it never works out and either way they still hold you and say “no, we can’t. I’m not ready, you’re not it for me. I don’t see you that way. We’re meant to be friends.” and you can’t wrap your mind around this logic that you are willing to give them everything and they refuse to take it. Thank them.

Thank that person for turning you down because if you gave them everything and they handed you nothing, they would have ruined you. They would have taken your heart out from your chest and made you believe that all people are cruel and no one is capable of loving but even if it’s not the love you want them to love, it’s still love. For someone to turn to you and embrace you and say no, not for the sake of anything else of being truthful. Thank them.

Now the last one, when you finally realize all the time spent moping around was a waste because someone else can love you, yeah. Shitty. In my opinion, even if someone turned away and the feeling of loving them won’t go away, maybe you are supposed to feel this way about them because one day, when someone loves you, you know what it looks like, how it feels and maybe that person wasn’t who you expected it to be, but you’ll appreciate the love that they give to you because you know what it’s like to love and lose. You know what it’s like to love someone with all of you and you’ll be able to pick them up when they’re at your feet begging for you to love them, and you’ll brush the dust off of their shoulders and say, “I love you too.” You’ll look them right in the eye and mean it.